Healing your Inner Child

 Hi everyone! Welcome back to my blog, I hope everyone is well. Honestly, I have so many blog ideas but I never really know what to start with or whether people even enjoy the kinds of posts I have been uploading. Also, THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR 400 VIEWERS!! That is insane for my first month, I am so grateful for every single one of you guys who read my posts :))

Recently I had been talking to some of my friends and I realised that maybe this was a good place to start. I feel like for some reason I always tend to attract people with wounded inner child's, including myself and hopefully this will help a lot of you understand more about yourself and potentially the root of a problem you may have.

What is your Inner Child?

Psychologically, your inner child is your childlike aspect, what you learnt as a child and how you were before puberty. 

Spiritually, your inner child is the essence of who you are, your aspect of innocence and the awareness of being playful and worry-free. Basically, it is your inner personality and the root of how you express yourself and who you are today.

Signs of a Wounded Inner Child

- You are a people pleaser.

- You feel scared to try new things.

- You believe that there is something wrong with you, even though things may be alright.

- You feel guilty to stand up for yourself.

- You are a perfectionist, to a potentially toxic extent.

- You struggle to say no.

- You avoid conflict as much as possible.

- Your biggest fear is being abandoned.

Obviously, there are many more signs of a wounded inner child, these are only just a few and many may not even experience some of these so it is different for everyone, these are just the few that I know of.

What Causes your Inner Child to be Wounded?

Again, there are multiple reasons that can be the cause of a wounded inner child but here are the few that I know of:

- You were taught that having your own opinion is a bad thing.

- You were discouraged from having fun and weren't allowed to be spontaneous.

- You were shamed for showing strong emotions like anger.

- You were emotionally/physically neglected.

- You went through childhood trauma, whether it was abuse or the loss of a person close to you.

What do you do in Order to Heal your Inner Child?

If you are close to me in person, then you know that meditation is my answer to everything. I absolutely love meditating and I am a firm believer in the idea that meditating and going inwards is where you will be able to heal yourself from the root and find the answers to everything. I know that you can find many good guided meditations on youtube for healing different things.

Some other things you can do is just dance around to your favourite songs or play some games with other children, it may seem childish but that's the whole point. Allowing yourself to enjoy the things which you may have not been able to do when you were younger is what will help you move forward from your wounded past.

Another great thing you can do is writing a letter to your inner child or from your inner child. It will help you understand what you may be feeling a bit better and this will allow you to be able to heal.

This may not be an option for everyone, but, seeing a therapist can also really help you. As much as you may try and do things yourself, it sometimes may not be enough and professional help could be necessary. I guess helping people is what they studied and is practically their job so they can really help you heal from past trauma in a way that not many other people can.

There are many other ways to help make your inner child feel safe but the last one I am going to share is pretty much just being kind to yourself. Don't be too hard on yourself and take life one step at a time. It is probably the hardest way to help yourself because it requires constant effort but reminding yourself that you've got this and whatever is meant to happen will happen in due time is something that will really help you with many other aspects in life as well.

I hope you enjoyed this week's post!! I literally wrote this in between serving customers at my mum's cafe hahaha. 

If anyone ever wants to talk or has any questions then don't hesitate to send me an email, it's aishanijoshi23@gmail.com, see you next week, love you <33