Is it Easier to Love or to be Loved?

 Hey everyone!! I hope everyone is doing well, I'm glad my recent posts have been interesting enough for you to keep coming back to my blog. 

Sometimes I really overthink everything, including the things I post. I always wonder "what if I am ruining everyone's lives and everyone hates me and the entire internet will cyberbully me" but I am SO GRATEFUL to have such amazing friends and family who keep helping me push through and actually continue this blog.

 Anyways, recently I have been super overwhelmed and in a bit of a weird mood which has lead me to being in my feels a lot and frankly I feel a bit like a burden when I talk about my feelings (I know, I'm working on it) so at the moment, this blog really is the only way I can let out all my feelings, hence the pretty deep topic.

What Actually is Love?

This is probably one of the hardest questions in life and I don't think that I will ever be able to answer it but this is my concept of love. 

Many people say it is a chemical in your brain and if we didn't have that chemical, we are completely unable to love. 

I however disagree, I think that, yes, it may be a chemical or a psychological thing, but, it is also something which you can feel and something you can make others feel. It doesn't require any materialistic things or frankly anything in general. 

It may be something as small as going out of your way to do something which you wouldn't want to normally do in order to make someone else happy, or something as large as telling someone you love them. 

It really is a topic which I could go on forever with because sadly I am a bit of a hopeless romantic who rereads pride and prejudice in her free time. I guess my final idea as to what love is, is just an unexplainable want to constantly make sure that a person or the people around you are always feeling more than content in life. This also includes yourself, in fact, you should be the first person you give love to.

I know lots of people say things like "unless you're able to love yourself, you won't be able to get love from anywhere else." There is so much I can go on about as to why I think that statement isn't true. It essentially tells us that we are not worthy of love unless we love ourselves. You ARE worthy of love and the world has so much love to give you (even if it may not seem like it), no matter where you are in your stage of healing, or even just life. Everyone is worthy of love and should be able to receive love no matter what their relationship is with themself.

Lastly, I think that real love is just sticking with the people you care about throughout everything, hard times and all. Life's tough and showing that you're there for a person is honestly one of the ultimate forms of love in my opinion.

Is it Easier to Love or to be Loved?

I honestly have a firm belief that everything in the world has a balance of two opposites, for example, good cannot exist without bad, and if good did exist without bad, it wouldn't been seen as good, it would be seen as normal.

 Similarly, I think that it isn't possible to love someone without feeling loved by them. If you "love" someone while they're not loving you back then in my opinion, it is self-destructive. You are essentially giving so much more and not receiving anything in return. 

Now, this doesn't mean that you can only love someone if they love you because sometimes it's hard for people to love the world and it isn't easy to wake up every day and consciously choose that you want to give love to the world. 

My point is, giving love to people while they're constantly hurting you or not making you feel loved or good about yourself, is self-destructive. You should only be able to give something if you have enough of it yourself because putting yourself first is always a priority.

Honestly, something I really struggle with is making boundaries for myself because of my empathetic nature, I quite literally can't stop giving so much to others, even if I may not have enough of it myself. From experience, I can tell you that making other people around me happy and feeling loved makes me feel great, but, when it comes to how I feel about myself, I just feel a bit empty and it leaves me feeling so confused. There have been times where I have even empathised with my bullies and in the moment I feel like I did a good thing but later on, I just feel overwhelmed with their energies and after a breakdown or two, I start questioning myself and asking myself whether what I did was right.

Anyways, this is getting a bit off track but in conclusion, I don't think it is possible to give love to someone unless you're feeling loved by them. If you're "loving" or empathising with people who don't feel the same way about you (like bullies) then you're not giving love, you're just being stupid. I can say that because I am one of those stupid people, I understand that it takes a lot to put yourself first because to this date I struggle to take care of myself but slowly and surely I will get to a stage where I am able to not only help the people around me but also myself and I am sure that any other one of you empaths reading this will too.

I hope you enjoyed this week's post, I know it got a bit deep at points but if I'm going to be honest, I really feel good after letting out some of the things on my mind and I really needed this. Writing really brings me some sort of comfort, my email is aishanijoshi23@gmail.com if anyone wants to talk!! See you next week, love you guys <33